When you read that title it sounds kind of funny. You might think, “don’t be different? But being different is cool. That’s what people are supposed to be. That is being yourself.” No, people have this crazy misconception about what “different” is. I’m sometimes not sure if no one wants to be different or if people just don’t know how to be different. I’m guessing it’s the latter. People always tell you to be different but they don’t really know what that is. How do I know? Because you start acting like yourself and they reel you back in and say, “no that’s not what I meant. I meant like me different.” Ironic, right? Different to people is not actually different. It’s quite the same if you ask me. If you’re reading this, you’re asking me.
You want to be different, so you try to be different. But if you’re trying to be different then you’re not different at all. You’re just like everyone else. Trying to be something that they aren’t. Everyone has convinced themselves that they are “queer” or “weird” or “different”. It’s become a popular thing, just not natural. So you have these people out here branding themselves as somebody special because they just think they’re so different, but they’re not. At the end of the day, they’re just like everyone else and will probably grow up to be just like their parents.
The secret to being different is being yourself. Doing everything that you feel is right for you. Doing everything that you like. Now you may be similar to other people, but you’ll still be different. Talk about things you want to talk about, listen to music you want to listen to, watch movies/TV shows you actually want to watch, get a job you like, don’t go to college if you don’t want to, etc. etc. etc. There are so many things that we do on just a daily basis that we do because of other people. We do them because sometimes we feel that we have to. Really, anytime we do something that we don’t like it’s because we feel that we have to.
Seriously, imagine this world. Where everyone was into the things they actually cared about. People did things, not because of others, but because they truly care about these things. We’d have a pretty diverse world. And I’m not talking color. I’m talking personality. Why must we go about our days being like everyone else? Talking like everyone else? Thinking like everyone else? Doing like everyone else?
It starts right here. I’m going to tell you something that will release your mind. It will set you free from the grasp of sameness. Here’s what it is: you don’t have to be like anyone else. You don’t have to. It seems kind of funny because you think, “that’s simple thinking. Duh, I don’t have to.” But see, you needed someone to tell you that. You needed some real proof of that believe it or not. You needed someone else to say that to you. In this way. Not at a motivational meet, not at school, not at work, not on some TV show, not your parents, not even on some stupid commercial. No, you needed this one on one. You DO NOT have to be like anyone else.
The reason that I tell you that is, believe it or not, your brains are chained down by the thought of being yourself is “too much”. You may not know it, but some of us are pressured to feel that we need to do, be, and act just like someone/everyone else. Some of us have that burden. We may not even believe that about ourselves. You know what people call it sometimes, peer pressure. I see people in the world who have a certain viewpoint with one person and change it into something else completely when they’re with another. Why? Because they’re afraid of saying what they think and losing respect or reputation. In that moment when everyone is saying one thing and you think about saying something totally different, it’s horrifying. But why not face horrifying for your own person?
It seems typical to post about being yourself, but some people really just don’t get it. When I say be yourself, I MEAN IT. Don’t play your own self and act as if you’re your own person and you’re so different when really you’re not. Don’t be psycho and crazy, but don’t be some plain Jane either. And your views. Those are the most important things to you. Don’t switch them up just because the president or mom or grandma, or Beyoncé think something different. Take this seriously. You need to reevaluate yourself and make sure you actually feel for whatever it is in your life. Don’t try to be like everyone else and act “different”. No, just be you. If someone else happens to be similar then cool, maybe you guys can be friends. But don’t hide who you are for nothing. It’s better to be yourself than to be what others call “different”.